When we look at all the doubts, fears and insecurities that we wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that some, if not, most people are better than us. When, in reality, most people are more scared than we are.
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and think the same thing. We are jealous of other people who themselves are jealous of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend; someone who you are comfortable opening up with. Ask questions like “Do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when were together?” In this way, the other person will know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Before you begin telling other people how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself are working to improve yourself. Open your ears for comments and criticisms. In return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will help them improve themselves.
Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement so stop thinking of yourself as second-rate. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner ... if only I was something I’m not”. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve have 10 more reasons to envy them.
We all have our insecurities, because nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life does not need to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.
Self improvement makes us better people, we inspire other people, and then everything else will follow.
Friday, July 27, 2007
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